Hi I am Shaun. I am your regular guy holding on to a 8-5 stable job, I have a loving family, awesome friends, and the greatest love of my life.
“Wonderful life, isn’t it? What is there to complain about?” Some may ask.
Nothing, absolutely nothing to complain about. In fact I have people who tell me that they envy the life I have.
Yet recently, I find that there is something is missing. I went for seminars, workshops and coaching sessions, I found out why I feel the way I feel.
I am not living on my edge! I am not living my life’s mission! I am not doing the things that makes my heart soar!
Knowing what you need to do does not mean that will do it.
I was still not living on my edge, I was still not living my life’s mission, I was still not doing the things that makes my heart soar.
Fear held me back: Fear of breaking out of my comfort zone, fear of working hard, fear of losing what I have.
Yet strangely, it is the fear of not living my life’s purpose that drives me to take action.
Why this Blog?
I am a toastmaster, and public speaking is my passion, for a longest period of time, I received much positive feedback. I felt good and this fed my ego. In recent times, however my mentor and best friend has been gave me the “hard truth”.
This is what he said: “Bro, don’t mind me saying this, but you are getting no where. Your speech is going all over the places, the message simply doesn’t land” It took me while (trust me its a very long time) but I finally figured out the problem.
In the beginning when I joined toastmasters, it was to overcome the fear of public speaking. After getting stage time, stage time, stage time, I no longer feared the stage, in fact I loved it, I loved being the centre of the stage, it became all about me. The audience didn’t matter. I spoke because I wanted to.
It came upon me recently that the audience was lost because I didn’t develop this fear, the fear of losing the audience. I did not ask myself this question: “How can the audience benefit from my message?” It created a paradigm shift for me, whenever I craft a speech, I will ask myself: What is the message? What does this message means to me? How can the audience benefit from the message?
It has had a huge impact in my progress, I won the “Best Speaker” award at successive toastmaster chapter meetings. Audience came up to me and shared with me that my speeches was fabulous and is inspired by the message.
I learnt a huge lesson from this episode. Fear is like a double edged sword, fear can lead to hope, fear can also lead to inactivity, passivity or even paranoia.
But for fear to lead to hope, it needs to be listened to, it needs to be questioned, its concerns needs to be addressed.
The blog’s purpose is simple, give fear the avenue to be heard, to be questioned and most importantly to address its concerns. Which would in turn lead to hope!
Hence the title: “LIVE! With Fear”
Feel free to drop me a comment if you have any fear, perhaps we can listen to it, question it and address it concerns.
Your fellow human being:)
22 Jan 2012