How I wish I can have….!
Have you ever found yourself saying that before?
Each of us have our own…., the…… represents what we want or what we want to be. Maybe its to be rich, maybe its to have someone to love?
My friends, have you ever wondered:
How do we bridge the gap between our wishes and the realization of our wishes?
How do we attain our wishes?
Yesterday, I had a meeting with my support group from the “Living in Passion” Program which I graduated from 2 weeks ago.
During the conversation, my group mate Maggie mentioned about her experience being a support to a friend, in keeping her friend accountable to the goals that were set.
“I used to text my friend: “Good Morning, what is your plan for the day?”. After a while my friend stopped responding.Text after texts, no replies came.
Finally my friend called me and said: ” You know Maggie, maybe I am happy being the way I am.”
This incident with my friend taught me improvement and goals are difficult to attain, it takes lots of hard work. Many people find that they are not willing to put in the hard work to reach their goals.”
My friends, I learnt from this as sharing by Maggie, that to realize our wishes, hard work is needed.
Have you ever been put off by hard work, have you ever feared putting in hard work?
Fear of hard work is one of my greatest fears. For me this fear does not have a symptom, such as shaking of legs, tummy turning. For me this fear works in the background and simply keeps me from even thinking about the things that I need to do.
That sharing by Maggie stirred my thoughts, and the question came: “What is the missing link between my goals and hard work?” i.e.How do I get myself to work hard?
I left the discussion group with that BIG question mark, hanging over my head.
Have that ever happened to you? What did you do when you have the Big question mark hanging over your head?
For me, after a couple of frowning, pondering moments, i knew it was getting me nowhere. I decided to I let the idea run at the back of my head while I continue to do what I needed to do. As they say: “The brain is an answer seeking machine.” I soon found answers from an unexpected source: Facebook. I was looking at some of the latest postings, and I saw this quote from Steven Covey, the late author of the book, “7 habits of an Effective Person”.
It says: “You have to decide what your highest priorities are and have the courage – pleasantly, smilingly, non-apologetically – to say ‘no’ to other things. And the say to do that is by having a BIGGER ‘YES’ burning inside.” The thing that captured my attention was the phrase “a BIGGER ‘yes’.”
I got it: To overcome the fear of hard work, to make all the pain, the sacrifice worth it, I need a Bigger ‘YES’, a Bigger ‘Goal’! The Goal got to be bigger than all the pain and sacrifices
Then comes the question: “What is the Big Goal?” To me the big goal is that one thing I got to do in order to fulfill my life’s purpose. it varies from person to person, after all we are here on earth for a unique reason.
I starting seeing the Fear of hardwork in a different light.
I see it as a test to see if My goal/wish/want is BIG enough.
With this realization, I will work hard to realize my goals.
My goals are to be:
1) An excellent Finance Manager, that can help the business improve.
2) To create a better life for myself and my family, by building multiple passive income streams via online medias.
3) A public speaker to spread the good word that: “We all have choices!”
The hard work that is expected this month are:
1) Study about the nuts and bolts of the new industry that I will be working in.
2) Relearn and reinforce accounting concepts.
3) Enhance the website “Livewithfear.com” to improve the visuals, and usability, enable Google Adsense on my website
4) Continue delivering project speeches at toastmasters setting, and to earn opportunities to speak outside of toastmasters.
My friends, next time when you say:
How I wish I …….?
Maybe you can ask: Is this a Big Goal? Or is it a nice to have?
If its a Big Goal, be prepared to work hard. If its a nice to have, do you have the time or passion to work hard.
(P.S I will report the status i.e. the results of my hard work at the end of the month under comments.)
Your fellow human being;)